How the dating communities compare
A few giants dominate — r/dating, r/dating_advice and r/datingoverthirty together account for 98% of the combined membership. Size and activity don't line up perfectly: r/dating has the most members, but r/dating_advice gets the most new posts (about 549 a day, against 173 in r/dating). Per member, the liveliest is r/datingadviceformen: 95 posts a day from 26.8K members — a smaller crowd, but an engaged one. Among the communities we track weekly, r/dating_advice grew fastest recently (+0.15%, +7.2K members since Oct 26). The oldest is r/dating, founded in 2008, and every community here is more than five years old — this is a long-established corner of Reddit.
The 6 biggest dating subreddits
r/dating 6,277,400 members · ~173 posts/day · +1.5K since Oct 26 · since 2008A subreddit to discuss and explore the dating process and learn from the experiences of others
r/dating_advice 4,915,580 members · ~549 posts/day · +7.2K since Oct 26 · since 2010this sub is for advice about specific dating situations not general debates. posts about relationships longer than 6 months post go to r/relationship_advice or if you are married post to r/marriage
- Dr/datingoverthirty ↗ 1,183,174 members · ~33 posts/day · +1.1K since Oct 26 · since 2014
A subreddit for folks nearing or over 30 who are looking for dating advice.
- Or/OnlineDating ↗ 160,214 members · ~25 posts/day · since 2008
Everything about online dating - your amusing stores, advice, and encouragement when you need it.
- Dr/datingoverfifty ↗ 32,991 members · ~18 posts/day · since 2019
A forum for discussing the ins and outs of dating over 50, as well as nascent relationships, and single life.
- Dr/datingadviceformen ↗ 26,815 members · ~95 posts/day · since 2012
A subreddit for guys to exchange advice, success stories, get over rejection, or just play with ideas for attracting and interacting with women on both a physical and emotional level.
Choosing where to post
Questions do best in r/dating_advice, the community on this list that is built around advice and help (around 549 posts a day). Competition for attention differs a lot: r/datingoverthirty has 1.2M members but only about 33 new posts a day — roughly one new post for every 36.3K members — while r/dating_advice gets about 549 a day, one for every 8.9K. A strong, well-made post therefore has more room to be seen in r/datingoverthirty; r/dating_advice is better when you want quick replies.
Big subreddits give a post the widest audience, but they also bury it quickly; the mid-sized communities on this list are usually friendlier for questions and first posts. Always read the rules in the sidebar first — each community is run by its own volunteer moderators. Our guide to searching Reddit explains how to dig through any of these communities, and the subreddit info tool gives you the stats of one we don't list.
Frequently asked questions
What is the biggest dating subreddit?
r/dating is the largest, with 6,277,400 members, followed by r/dating_advice (4.9M) and r/datingoverthirty (1.2M).
Which dating subreddit is the most active?
By new posts per day, r/dating_advice leads with about 549, ahead of r/dating (173). Counts are averages over the last seven days.
Where should a beginner ask about dating on Reddit?
r/dating_advice is the one built around questions and advice, with about 549 new posts a day. Check its rules and search it first — common questions have usually been answered.
How many dating subreddits are there?
We list 6 active, safe-for-work dating communities with at least 25,000 members each, 12.6M members in total (people can be in several). Reddit has many smaller ones too; our guide on searching Reddit shows how to find them.
What is the oldest dating subreddit?
r/dating, created on Mar 2, 2008.
Are these dating subreddits safe for work?
Yes. Every community on this page is public and not marked 18+ by Reddit, and we filter out communities whose name or description points to adult content.
Data: Reddit's public subreddit search and the Arctic Shift archive (Nov 6, 2026), growth from SubMouse's weekly snapshots. Member counts of communities outside our Top 1000 come from the archive and can lag a little. Not affiliated with Reddit.