About r/datingoverthirty
In its own words:
A subreddit for folks nearing or over 30 who are looking for dating advice.
Community guide
r/datingoverthirty (#903, about 1.2 million) offers dating advice for people nearing or over 30—discussion-first text threads, not swipe-app screenshots or hate-group ideology.
What belongs
Dating advice/discussion (about 32 posts/day, text-heavy). Rules emphasise kindness, ban doxxing, karma farming, spam, rants, frequent rehashed topics, and hate-group ideology; mods retain discretion.
Versus dating_advice and Tinder
Generic dating_advice spans all ages; Tinder is app-specific. This room’s age frame and discussion (not rant) norms are the differentiator.
Practical pointers
Post as discussion, not a pile-on rant; no doxxing.
SubMouse Editorial
The community was created on Nov 3, 2014, which makes it 12 years old. Since Oct 26, 2026, it has gained 715 subscribers (+0.06%). Among the 6 communities on our dating list it is number 3 by size. It sits just behind r/AskAnAmerican (#902) and ahead of r/germany (#904) in our ranking.
What sets r/datingoverthirty apart
r/datingoverthirty is far more text-driven than most big subreddits: 100% of its recent posts are text posts, against a median of 34% across the Top 100. Posts here spark a lot of conversation: the archive averages 28.4 comments per post, roughly 2.2× the typical big subreddit (13.1). Its rhythm is strongly tied to time zones: the busiest hour (15:00 UTC) sees about 14.0× as many posts as the quietest (07:00 UTC).
Subscriber growth
Between Sep 19, 2026 and Nov 2, 2026, r/datingoverthirty went up from 1,179,016 to 1,183,569 subscribers (+4.6K, +0.39%). That is about 103 new members per day. The chart uses our weekly snapshots (9 so far), so it gets longer every week.
What r/datingoverthirty talks about
Across 157 recent posts (Oct 29–Nov 5), the words that come up most are “dating”, “advice”, “date”, “looking” and “relationship”. Other frequent themes are daily, sticky, rants, raves, celebrations and slow. Recurring phrases include “daily sticky”, “rants raves”, “raves celebrations” and “celebrations advice”. By format, 100% are text posts.
Popular post flairs: Rule 9 Violation (1), Rule 4 Violation Rule 5 Violation (1), Rule 2 Violation (1).
Activity and best time to post
r/datingoverthirty gets about 32 new posts a day. The public archive holds 167,932 posts and 4,774,723 comments in total, about 28.4 comments per post. Last week the busiest day was Thursday (42 posts) and the quietest was Wednesday (13). Posting peaks around 15:00 UTC and is lowest around 07:00 UTC.
Rules of r/datingoverthirty
The moderators of r/datingoverthirty list 11 rules. In short:
- Dating advice and discussion
- This is a discussion sub
- Requirements for posting topics
- Be kind to one another
- No hate group ideology
- No doxxing
- No post karma farming
- No spam
- No rants
- No frequent topics
How to join
Open reddit.com/r/datingoverthirty and press “Join”. Read the community rules in the sidebar before you post: every subreddit is run by its own volunteer moderators.
Frequently asked questions
How many subscribers does r/datingoverthirty have?
r/datingoverthirty has 1,183,569 subscribers (Nov 2, 2026), which makes it the #903 safe-for-work subreddit in the SubMouse ranking. It added 4,553 members between Sep 19, 2026 and Nov 2, 2026.
How old is r/datingoverthirty?
r/datingoverthirty was created on Nov 3, 2014, so it has been around for 12 years.
How active is r/datingoverthirty?
Very active: r/datingoverthirty gets about 32 new posts a day (average of the last four weeks). Over its lifetime the archive counts 167,932 posts and 4,774,723 comments. In a sample of 157 recent posts we counted 140 different authors.
When is r/datingoverthirty most active?
Based on post counts from Oct 29, 2026 to Nov 4, 2026, the busiest day was Thursday and the quietest Wednesday, and most posts arrive around 15:00 UTC, with the fewest around 07:00 UTC. More posts also means more competition, so a quieter hour can help a post get noticed.
What is r/datingoverthirty about?
The community describes itself as: “A subreddit for folks nearing or over 30 who are looking for dating advice.” Recent post titles often mention dating, advice, date, looking and relationship. Most posts are text posts (100%).
Is r/datingoverthirty safe for work?
Yes. Reddit does not mark r/datingoverthirty as an 18+ (NSFW) community. SubMouse lists safe-for-work subreddits only.
How do I post on r/datingoverthirty?
Join the community on Reddit first, then use “Create post”. r/datingoverthirty accepts text posts only. It has 11 posted rules, starting with: “Dating advice and discussion”; “This is a discussion sub”; “Requirements for posting topics”. Moderators remove posts that break the rules, so read them in the sidebar before posting.
Which communities are like r/datingoverthirty?
Communities with similar topics include r/dating_advice (4.9M), r/dating (6.3M), r/Tinder (6M), r/FiftyFifty (2.3M) and r/technews (1.1M).
Stats from public data (data updated Nov 2, 2026; activity, rules and archive totals via the Arctic Shift archive, Nov 6, 2026). Point and comment counts are archive snapshots and can be lower than on Reddit today. SubMouse is an independent directory and is not affiliated with Reddit or the moderators of r/datingoverthirty.