r/AskMen vs r/AskWomen

Side-by-side using public descriptions, members, growth and rule titles from SubMouse. Missing fields show as n/a. Adult communities are excluded.

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Ask-men Q&A vs ask-women Q&A

r/AskMen frames itself as a place to discuss men’s experience; its directory blurb is informal, while collected rule titles do the real steering. r/AskWomen’s public description says it is for asking women about their thoughts, lives and experiences in a non-judgmental space.

In our directory, AskMen is larger (about 7.4M, rank #107) than AskWomen (about 5.8M, rank #146). Activity samples show AskMen posting more often (~231 posts/day vs ~142). Both samples are essentially all text.

Rule titles make the ask formats strict: AskMen requires a real question in the title and redirects dating advice elsewhere; AskWomen requires descriptive open questions and bans majority/minority exclusions, invalidation and agenda posting.

Use r/AskMen when you want answers from a men’s-experience Q&A room under its title and topic rules.
Use r/AskWomen when the question is for women’s perspectives under its open-question and civility rules.
Both sit outside the current Top 100 cut, so SubMouse opens them via the info tool rather than a full /r/ page.

Written comparison based on public descriptions and rule titles · updated 2026-11-07.

r/AskMen

AskMen: a place to discuss men's experience

Marginally better than a Walmart parking lot

Members: 7.4M
7-day growth: +5.1K
Posts/day: 231.1
Directory rank: #107
Created: Aug 30, 2010
Submissions: Text posts

Sample mix: text posts 100%

Rule titles (short names we collected)

Don't be an asshole / be respectful to others.
The title of your post must contain an actual, concise question. No clickbait titles.
Read the Frequently Asked Questions wiki and do a search before asking a question.
Do not post asking about dating advice, or a person or group's actions, behavior, or thinking.
YES/NO/"Does anyone else" questions will be removed at our discretion.
Do not make posts looking for affirmation of your appearance, personality or body features.
Do not post negative/forever alone rants.
Don't comment/post self-deprecating content looking to get karma or attention.
No questions about gifts or presents.
No agenda posting, and no brigading/complaining about other subs.
Medical advice is not allowed here.
We do not allow surveys or promotional content.

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r/AskWomen

AskWomen: Questions about women's thoughts, lives, and experiences

AskWomen: A subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about their thoughts, lives, and experiences; providing a place where all women can comfortably and candidly share their responses in a non-judgmental space. As …

Members: 5.8M
7-day growth: +3.7K
Posts/day: 141.8
Directory rank: #146
Created: Jul 17, 2010
Submissions: Text posts

Sample mix: text posts 100%

Topics: Questions & Discussion

Rule titles (short names we collected)

Minimum Participation Requirements
Basic Question Posting Requirements.
Authentic Engagement Only - Acting in Good Faith Required
Questions posted must be descriptive & open-ended.
No posts about specific individuals or situations
No specifying majority/excluding minority demographic
No invalidation of others’ experiences
No derailing
No Graceless Generalizations
No disrespectful or hateful commentary
No gendered slurs
No pot-stirring or agenda

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Supported differences

Aspect	r/AskMen	r/AskWomen
Public focus (from each community’s public description)	Marginally better than a Walmart parking lot	AskWomen: A subreddit dedicated to asking women questions about their thoughts, lives, and experiences; providing a place where all women can comfortably and candidly share their responses in a non-judgmental space. As …
Size r/AskMen is larger in our directory.	7.4M members	5.8M members
Posting activity (our sample)	231.1/day	141.8/day
Common post types in our sample	text posts 100%	text posts 100%
Topic tags on SubMouse	n/a	Questions & Discussion
Selected rule titles (short names we collected)	Don't be an asshole / be respectful to others.; The title of your post must contain an actual, concise question. No clickbait titles.; Read the Frequently Asked Questions wiki and do a search before asking a question.; Do not post asking about dating advice, or a person or group's actions, behavior, or thinking.; YES/NO/"Does anyone else" questions will be removed at our discretion.	Minimum Participation Requirements; Basic Question Posting Requirements.; Authentic Engagement Only - Acting in Good Faith Required; Questions posted must be descriptive & open-ended.; No posts about specific individuals or situations

What they share

Our directory lists each of these communities on the other’s related list.

Rules and tone we can verify

AskMen short titles we collected include: be respectful; title must contain a question; read the FAQ; do not post asking about dating advice (redirect); yes/no and “does anyone else” questions removed; no affirmation-seeking or forever-alone rants; no self-deprecating content; no gift questions; no agenda posting or brigading; no medical advice; no surveys.

AskWomen: minimum participation; basic question posting requirements; authentic engagement; questions must be descriptive and open; no posts about specific individuals; no specifying majority/excluding minorities; no invalidation; no derailing; no graceless generalizations; no disrespectful commentary; no gendered slurs; no pot-stirring or agenda.

Where this comparison comes from

Public titles, descriptions and member counts from SubMouse’s safe-for-work directory. Short rule titles and posting-activity samples SubMouse collected for both names. Short titles only.

Members and public descriptions come from SubMouse's safe-for-work directory (as of 2026-11-02 UTC); 7-day growth measured from 2026-10-26. Posts/day and post-type mixes appear when we have an activity sample. Rule lines are short titles, not the full sidebar. Directory rank is listing order — communities outside the current Top 100 open in the info tool instead of a full community page.