r/AmItheAsshole vs r/relationship_advice
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Ask who was wrong vs ask what to do next
r/AmItheAsshole’s public description is about finding out if you were wrong in a non-violent conflict—moral philosophy as catharsis. Its short rule titles include “Do Not Ask For Advice” and focus on interpersonal conflicts with voting and accepting judgment. r/relationship_advice asks for help on romance, friendship, family or basic human interaction, and a collected rule title bans questions that can be answered with yes or no (aka moral judgment).
In our directory, AmItheAsshole is larger (about 24.7M members, rank #23) than relationship_advice (about 15.9M, rank #57). Both activity samples are text-only and high volume; relationship_advice posted more often in our window (~755 vs ~296 posts/day).
Use AmItheAsshole when you want a verdict on who was out of line. Use relationship_advice when you need specific next-step advice on a real situation between people—and you are not asking for a simple YTA/NTA-style moral score.
- Choose r/AmItheAsshole for a moral judgment on a conflict—not for advice requests.
- Choose r/relationship_advice for specific advice; its rules reject yes/no moral-judgment questions.
- We already compare relationship_advice with r/relationships and r/dating_advice on separate pages.
Written comparison based on public descriptions and rule titles · updated 2026-11-07.
r/AmItheAsshole
Am I the Asshole?
A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; giv…
- Members
- 24.7M
- 7-day growth
- +10K
- Posts/day
- 296.3
- Directory rank
- #23
- Created
- Jun 8, 2013
- Submissions
- Text posts
Sample mix: text posts 100%
Rule titles (short names we collected)
- Be Civil
- Voting Rules
- Accept Your Judgment
- Never Delete An Active Discussion
- No Violeпce
- How To Post
- Post Interpersonal Conflicts
- No Shitposts
- Do Not Ask For Advice
- Updates and META posts are restricted
- This Is Not A Debate Sub
- No Revenge Stories
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r/relationship_advice
Relationship Advice
Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help!
- Members
- 15.9M
- 7-day growth
- +6K
- Posts/day
- 755.4
- Directory rank
- #57
- Created
- Jun 14, 2009
- Submissions
- Text posts
Sample mix: text posts 100%
Topics: Advice, Relationships
Rule titles (short names we collected)
- Posts must contain a title, description, TLDR, & basic info like ages, genders
- All posts must request specific advice on a specific, real situation between two or more people
- No questions that can be answered with yes or no (aka moral judgment)
- Things This Sub Can't Give Advice On:
- Only One Update Is Allowed
- Surveys, Academic Research, Information Requests, and Media Questions Should Be Sent to Modmail
- All comments must be on topic, and focus on the OP, and be made in good faith
- Keep It Civil
- No referencing hateful or abusive subs/individuals/content
- Do not directly message users
- No situations involving people under 18
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Supported differences
| Aspect | r/AmItheAsshole | r/relationship_advice |
|---|
| Public focus (from each community’s public description) |
A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. Tell us about any non-violent conflict you have experienced; giv… |
Need help with your relationship? Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! |
| Size r/AmItheAsshole is larger in our directory (about 1.6×). |
24.7M members |
15.9M members |
| Posting activity (our sample) |
296.3/day |
755.4/day |
| Common post types in our sample |
text posts 100% |
text posts 100% |
| Topic tags on SubMouse |
n/a |
Advice, Relationships |
| Selected rule titles (short names we collected) |
Be Civil; Voting Rules; Accept Your Judgment; Never Delete An Active Discussion; No Violeпce |
Posts must contain a title, description, TLDR, & basic info like ages, genders; All posts must request specific advice on a specific, real situation between two or more people; No questions that can be answered with yes or no (aka moral judgment); Things This Sub Can't Give Advice On:; Only One Update Is Allowed |
Rules that mark the split
For r/AmItheAsshole we collected short rule titles including be civil, voting rules, accept your judgment, never delete an active discussion, no violence, how to post, post interpersonal conflicts, no shitposts, do not ask for advice, and limits on updates/META.
For r/relationship_advice: required title/description/TLDR and basic ages/genders; must request specific advice on a real situation between people; no yes/no moral-judgment questions; topics the sub cannot advise on; one update only; surveys/research via modmail; on-topic good-faith comments; civility; no hateful references; do not DM users.
Where this comparison comes from
Public titles, descriptions and member counts from SubMouse’s SFW directory (see page date). Short rule titles and posting-activity samples for both. Rule lines are short titles only — not full sidebar text or post bodies.
Members and public descriptions come from SubMouse's safe-for-work directory (as of 2026-11-02 UTC); 7-day growth measured from 2026-10-26. Posts/day and post-type mixes appear when we have an activity sample. Rule lines are short titles, not the full sidebar. Directory rank is listing order — communities outside the current Top 100 open in the info tool instead of a full community page.