About r/raisedbynarcissists
In its own words:
This is a support group for people raised by abusive parents (with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders). Please share your stories, your questions, your histories, your fears and your triumphs. Significant others and friends are all welcome.
Community guide
r/raisedbynarcissists (#948, about 1.2 million) is a high-volume support group for people raised by abusive or narcissistic parents—vent and advice flairs, with strict anti-victim-blaming and anti-violence norms.
What belongs
Support posts from people raised in toxic/abusive parent dynamics (about 137 posts/day, text). Rules: no attacks/victim-blaming; assume abuse context; don’t derail OP; no empty platitudes; no violence/revenge advocacy; no Facebook/Discord link-outs; no N-kids posts; no drive-by diagnoses; no estranged-parent forum links; no fundraisers/surveys; no clickbait titles; narcissists may not post; no hate-group links.
Versus insaneparents and JUSTNOMIL
Those neighbour rooms cover overlapping family toxicity with different scopes (MIL-focused, etc.). RBN is specifically the raised-by-N support frame.
Practical pointers
Use flairs for advice-ok vs no-advice vents; never advocate revenge.
SubMouse Editorial
The community was created on Feb 18, 2013, which makes it 13 years old. Since Oct 26, 2026, it has gained 1,195 subscribers (+0.11%). It sits just behind r/Cheese (#947) and ahead of r/NotMyJob (#949) in our ranking.
What sets r/raisedbynarcissists apart
r/raisedbynarcissists is far more text-driven than most big subreddits: 100% of its recent posts are text posts, against a median of 34% across the Top 100. For its size it is unusually busy: about 122.1 new posts a day per million members, more than 97% of the Top 100. It is also one of the faster-growing big communities: its 0.70% gain since Sep 19, 2026 beats 86% of the Top 100. Its rhythm is strongly tied to time zones: the busiest hour (16:00 UTC) sees about 3.8× as many posts as the quietest (07:00 UTC).
Subscriber growth
Between Sep 19, 2026 and Nov 2, 2026, r/raisedbynarcissists went up from 1,110,859 to 1,118,603 subscribers (+7.7K, +0.70%). That is about 176 new members per day. The chart uses our weekly snapshots (9 so far), so it gets longer every week.
What r/raisedbynarcissists talks about
Looking at the titles of 700 recent posts (Oct 29–Nov 5), the words that come up most are “parents”, “mom”, “mother”, “dad” and “family”. Other frequent themes are feel, narcissistic, parent, narc, father and life. Recurring phrases include “narc parent”, “narcissistic parents”, “abusive father” and “low contact”. By format, 100% are text posts.
Popular post flairs: [Rant/Vent, Advice OK] (279), [Advice Request] (158), [Question] (118), [Supportive Responses Only, Advice OK] (46), [Rant/Vent, No Advice] (33), [Supportive Responses Only, No Advice] (13).
Activity and best time to post
r/raisedbynarcissists gets about 140 new posts a day. The public archive holds 825,838 posts and 8,789,246 comments in total, about 10.6 comments per post. Last week the busiest day was Sunday (157 posts) and the quietest was Saturday (117). Posting peaks around 16:00 UTC and is lowest around 07:00 UTC.
Rules of r/raisedbynarcissists
The moderators of r/raisedbynarcissists list 15 rules. In short:
- No - personal attacks/bigotry/victim-blaming. No advocating for someone else's N or GC sibling.
- Always assume a context of abuse
- Do not derail the OP
- No platitudes or generic motivational or generic advice posts
- No advocating violence or revenge, even in jest
- No linking to Facebook pages, Discords, or chat rooms/groups
- No posts about N-kids
- No diagnosis by media or drive-by diagnosis.
- No linking to estranged parent forums.
- No links to GoFundMe pages, fundraisers, etc. No surveys. No research requests.
How to join
Open reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists and press “Join”. Read the community rules in the sidebar before you post: every subreddit is run by its own volunteer moderators.
Frequently asked questions
How many subscribers does r/raisedbynarcissists have?
r/raisedbynarcissists has 1,118,603 subscribers (Nov 2, 2026), which makes it the #948 safe-for-work subreddit in the SubMouse ranking. It added 7,744 members between Sep 19, 2026 and Nov 2, 2026.
When was r/raisedbynarcissists created?
r/raisedbynarcissists was created on Feb 18, 2013, so it has been around for 13 years.
Is r/raisedbynarcissists still active?
Yes. r/raisedbynarcissists gets about 140 new posts a day (average of the last four weeks). Over its lifetime the archive counts 825,838 posts and 8,789,246 comments. In a sample of 700 recent posts we counted 578 different authors.
What is the best time to post in r/raisedbynarcissists?
Based on post counts from Oct 29, 2026 to Nov 4, 2026, the busiest day was Sunday and the quietest Saturday, and most posts arrive around 16:00 UTC, with the fewest around 07:00 UTC. More posts also means more competition, so a quieter hour can help a post get noticed.
What kind of posts are on r/raisedbynarcissists?
The community describes itself as: “This is a support group for people raised by abusive parents (with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders). Please share your …” Recent post titles often mention parents, mom, mother, dad and family. Most posts are text posts (100%).
Is r/raisedbynarcissists SFW?
Yes. Reddit does not mark r/raisedbynarcissists as an 18+ (NSFW) community. SubMouse lists safe-for-work subreddits only.
What are the rules of r/raisedbynarcissists?
Join the community on Reddit first, then use “Create post”. r/raisedbynarcissists accepts text posts only, with galleries enabled. It has 15 posted rules, starting with: “No - personal attacks/bigotry/victim-blaming. No advocating for someone else's N or GC sibling.”; “Always assume a context of abuse”; “Do not derail the OP”. Moderators remove posts that break the rules, so read them in the sidebar before posting.
What subreddits are similar to r/raisedbynarcissists?
Communities with similar topics include r/entitledparents (2M), r/SingleParents (1.4M), r/insaneparents (1.4M), r/JUSTNOMIL (1.9M) and r/childfree (1.6M).
Stats from public data (data updated Nov 2, 2026; activity, rules and archive totals via the Arctic Shift archive, Nov 6, 2026). Point and comment counts are archive snapshots and can be lower than on Reddit today. SubMouse is an independent directory and is not affiliated with Reddit or the moderators of r/raisedbynarcissists.